TOP TIPS: 6 Steps to finding your dream dress by a wedding planner in Cornwall.
Updated: Jun 30
Do you feel like Phoebe when you walk into a wedding dress shop?
You shouldn't! Hopefully this blog will help you
find for your perfect dress.
The dress… so much pressure gets put on finding the dress of your dreams. I don’t believe you should put pressure on yourself, it should be the most exciting time in your life, and you only get to do it the once. I’ve written out a few tips on how to make this time stress free, giving you more time for the best bits of wedding planning (cake tasting and drinking prosecco, obviously).
1. Do your research
There are so many different types of dresses out there, there are different shapes, colours, sleeves, neck lines and the list keeps going. I would probably recommend having an idea of what you like before heading to the boutique. It is much easier to ‘have a browse’ online than through the shop, as a lot of the time the dresses all look the same on the hangers.
But, my main tip in the research section is DO NOT get too fixated on dresses online. They may not be in stock, but most of the time they don’t look anything like they do on the model when you eventually try it on.
2. Where to go
There are so many bridal shops, I would recommend picking two to three bridal houses to look at. Not all of them are the same, they offer different designers, focus on different shapes and all have a different ‘feel’. I would phone them up before booking an appointment and see how you feel about them over the phone, it will be a huge give-away as to how nice they will be in person.
Although, don’t overwhelm yourself, you don’t have to go to more than one shop if you fall in love with one.
3. Who to take
Everyone will want to go with you, but don’t take too many people - imagine all of them opinions. God no.
Take people who really know you, and will give you honest feedback, you really don’t want everyone to say “oh it looks beautiful”, but you know that actually, the dress is not really for you.
My final point is, don't let them say no to a dress you are actually in love with. You are wearing that dress all day, not them. But, if they really know you, and you are actually in love with it, they will know anyway.
4. The appointment
Try and get a morning appointment, the bridal store staff will be fresh and won't have dealt with the concerns of a million clients already (gives you a good excuse to go for a lunch with your girls after as well!)
Wear beautiful underwear to your appointment! Someone will be helping you put on the dress, and they get to see it all. It will also make you feel like your actual day if you feel special.
Don't be afraid to ask questions, the ladies in the shop get asked them all the time. They will want you to feel comfortable and be really happy with your dress.
5. Picking the one
Where to start on this one. It is said you shouldn't try on too many dresses as it will confuse you, but I think I tried on at least 20 before finding the one I fell in love with. I had to have a break from trying on dresses, it did all get a bit too much, I left it a month and then went back to trying on.
Bridal sizing is all a lie, I honestly do not know why they do it, it makes you feel so rubbish having to try on a size 18 when you’re only a size 12… but hey, thats the way it is and everyone is in the same boat.
Having said that DO NOT order a size smaller, I do not believe in “shredding for the wedding”. Your wedding day is about marrying your best friend, do not try to be someone you are not.
Following on from that be true to your style, don't just go for something that is on trend now. Only you know whether you would actually wear that dress in real life or not. It must suit your figure, your style and your personality. You want your future husband to recognise you, as you!
6. Buttons or Corset
You have now picked THE dress. Does it have buttons, or is a corset? Are you worried about who you can trust to fasten it. Or, have all of your bridesmaids declined as they don't want the pressure.
I am more than happy to say that I offer a ‘dressing service’. The lovely Susan from Oriole Alterations taught me all of her tips, tricks and secrets. I have a trusty dressing service bag and I would love to help you on your wedding day.